Fifth Grade Guidance
We have a great time in Fifth Grade and I always look forward to learning more about our new middle school students and parents!
Fifth Grade students now have the opportunity to be inducted into our Middle School Junior Beta Club. This is an honor and an exciting time for our students. To prepare our fifth grade students for this event, I spend a day in each of the fifth grade classrooms talking with them about how to calculate a Grade Performance Average (GPA). We look at several report cards and average the GPA for each sample report card. We also discuss how important the GPA will be as they begin high school in a few years and how important the study habits and work they are doing now will impact those early years in high school. It's always a fun and informative time and the children ask very thoughtful and challenging questions.
One area of concern that always appears with students as early as third grade, and continuing through middle school, is conflict between friends. I am always available to help you and your students with friend concerns. Our goal when working with students in this area is to strive to teach them to handle relationships as we are instructed in the scriptures from Romans 12:10-21:
Be devoted to one another in brotherly love. Honor one another above yourselves. Never be lacking in zeal, but keep your spiritual fervor, serving the Lord. Be joyful in hope, patient in affliction, faithful in prayer. Share with God's people who are in need. Practice hospitality. Bless those who persecute you; bless and do not curse. Rejoice with those who rejoice; mourn with those who mourn. Live in harmony with one another. Do not be proud, but be willing to associate with people of low position. Do not be conceited. Do not repay anyone evil for evil. Be careful to do what is right in the eyes of everybody. If it is possible, as far as it depends on you, live at peace with everyone. Do not take revenge, my friends, but leave room for God's wrath, for it is written: "It is mine to avenge; I will repay," says the Lord. On the contrary; "If your enemy is hungry, feed him; if he is thirsty, give him something to drink. In doing this, you will heap burning coals on his head." Do not be overcome by evil, but overcome evil with good.
TEACHING CHILDREN TO BE PEACEMAKERS
In his article "Teaching Children to be Peacemakers," Dr. James Dobson of Focus on the Family, offers 12 principles to teach your children how to resolve conflict with their peers.
- 1. Conflict is a slippery slope.
- 2. Conflict starts in the heart.
- 3. Choices have consequences.
- 4. Wise-way choices are better than my-way choices.
- 5. The blame game makes conflict worse.
- 6. Conflict is an opportunity.
- 7. Forgiveness is a choice, not a feeling.
- 8. It is never too late to start doing what's right.
- 9. Think before you speak...
- 10. Respectful communication is more likely to be heard.
- 11. A respectful appeal can prevent conflict. Learn how to make one.
- 12. The "Five A's" can resolve conflict.
These simple steps will almost always lead to peace:
- Admit what you did wrong. Include both wrong desires and bad choices.
- Apologize for how your choice affected the other person. Express the sorrow you feel.
- Accept the consequences for your wrongdoing without argument or excuses.
- Ask for forgiveness.
- Alter your choice in the future. Think over and plan how you are going to act differently next time.